We all have times when we need information and advice on how to cope with family and relationship issues including relationship problems, divorce and separation, children and young people, making wills and bereavement. The following questions will help you find out what support is available to you.
- feel frightened and uncertain about what the future will hold
- feel frightened for the children
- feel it is in the children’s best interests to stay in the family home
- feel ashamed and reluctant to tell or seek help
- have such low confidence and self-esteem that making decisions is a confusing and difficult task
- be isolated from family and friends and feel they have no one to turn to
- be worried about financial security if they leave
- not have information on services available
- have received a negative response, when they reached out to someone for support in the past
- be too exhausted to take on any life changes or major decisions
- still have feelings of love for their partner and fond memories of how things used to be
- hope and believe that things will get better
It is important to remember, leaving is a process and not an event. Society has a responsibility to support women who make that difficult decision. All agencies can play a role in providing support during a woman and children’s help seeking process. A positive initial response is crucial. Women and children need to be believed, supported and encouraged to take positive steps for their own safety and well-being.
Unfortunately leaving does not always stop the violence and many women are still exposed to abuse when they leave the relationship. Research has shown that women can be at higher risk during this time. The British Crime Survey found that 37% of women studied who had left their abusive partner reported that the violence continued. Research by Lees (2000) highlighted that women are at greatest risk of homicide at the point of separation or after leaving a violent partner.
Domestic violence takes many forms, physical, psychological, economic, sexual and emotional and can often be a combination of several of these. It includes forms of violent and controlling behaviour such as: physical assault, sexual abuse, rape, threats and intimidation, harassment, humiliating and controlling behaviour, withholding of finances, economic manipulation, deprivation, isolation, belittling and constant unreasonable criticism. Domestic violence is one element in the overall issue of violence against women, which includes, among other crimes, murder, rape, sexual assault, trafficking, sexual stalking and sexual harassment.
Domestic violence often occurs over a period of time. Victims of domestic violence will experience a range of emotions, including fear, reluctance, uncertainty, worry and stress. Domestic violence can impact upon a person’s self-esteem and confidence, all of which can make leaving an abusive relationship a daunting and frightening step.
- Difficulties thinking and understanding
- Physical or sensory difficulties
- Emotional and behavioural difficulties
- Difficulties with speech and language
- How they relate to and behave with other people.
- Reading, writing, number work or understanding information
- Expressing themselves or understanding what others are saying
- Making friends or relating to adults
- Behaving properly in school
- Organising themselves
- Sensory or physical needs which may affect them in school
- Help getting to and from school
- Help accessing activities in their local community.
I need help with home maintenance / adaptations / cooking / cleaning / recreation activities, what can I do?
The Staying Put Scheme is Stockport’s Home Improvement Agency. The scheme is to help older homeowners and people with disabilities to continue living independently, comfortably and safely in their own home for as long as possible.
I am looking for vocational opportunities for young people with learning difficulties, where can I get further advice?
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